Kingdom Marriages Are Worth Waiting For
The Desperation in the Waiting
Ahhh… February—the month of love, flowers, chocolates, and romantic dates with that special someone. Many look forward to this time of year to celebrate love and friendships. But for those still waiting to find their soulmate, this month can feel discouraging.
Another year has passed, and once again, we’re still single. The questions and comments start rolling in: Have you met anyone special yet? When are you going to get married? Your biological clock is ticking—you better hurry up and find someone! These classic statements bombard us, making us feel even worse than we already do.
We start to wonder: Is something wrong with me? Why am I still single? We see others finding love and getting married while nothing seems to be happening for us. And in our frustration, we begin asking: Did God forget about me? Where is my special someone? Should I lower my standards just to finally meet someone?
I understand those feelings all too well. The waiting can be tough. But I’m here to tell you—don’t let the weariness of waiting push you to settle for less than what God has for your life. He knows your desire for marriage, and He is preparing you to become the person your spouse needs.
The Pressure Is Real
Society places immense pressure on singles—especially after a certain age. The comments and questions only add to the stress and frustration of an already challenging season.
We’re constantly told: You need to go out more if you want to meet someone! Okay… but where? We already go to church, live normal lives, and visit restaurants, grocery stores, malls, and even airports when we travel—yet we haven’t met anyone. So where exactly are we supposed to go?
Certainly not to a bar or club if we’re seeking a godly partner.
Then there’s the ever-popular suggestion: Why don’t you try online dating? While this has worked for some, others find it overwhelming. Sifting through endless profiles, each person looking for their own version of love, can make it difficult to find the right one.
Singleness can be tough. On top of life’s normal stresses—work, finances, and responsibilities—there’s the added pressure of trying to meet the right person.
Can you relate?
The Frustration…
Throughout my life, I’ve dated several guys and been in a couple of relationships. But for the majority of my adult life, I’ve been single.
And many times, the pressure of singleness has gotten to me. I’ve felt hopeless, wondering if I’d ever find the right person. I remember thinking, Maybe something is wrong with me. Maybe I’m not pretty enough for guys to like me.
Worse yet, I began believing the lie that there were no good men left—that I was doomed to be single forever.
But I was wrong.
None of those thoughts were true. I was just anxious and frustrated, fabricating lies in my head to explain why I was still single.
Have you ever pointed out all your flaws, blaming yourself for your singleness?
Marriage After God’s Own Heart
Being single can feel lonely at times. But that doesn’t mean we should enter into a relationship just for the sake of being in one. That kind of decision can be dangerous.
No matter how hard it may be, we must wait on the Lord to bring the right person into our lives.
God is the creator of marriage, and He desires it for us. The problem is that we often desire marriage for all the wrong reasons—because we’re lonely, because we’re tired of being pressured by society, because our friends and family are all married, because of our age, finances, or other factors.
The pressure to get married can be so intense that we even consider relationships with unbelievers, thinking, At least I won’t be single anymore—God will understand.
But entering a relationship outside of God’s will can be disastrous. When we yoke ourselves to an unbeliever, we risk delaying our calling and compromising our faith. Instead of growing closer to the Lord, we may grow colder because we’re with someone who doesn’t know or care about His ways.
As singles, we must ask ourselves: What kind of partner will draw me nearer to God?
A fulfilling, godly marriage requires a spouse who understands and pursues the things of God.
Kingdom Marriages
God desires kingdom marriages between a man and a woman who both know, seek, and honor Him. He designed marriage to reflect His relationship with the Church, as described in Ephesians 5:22-27:
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.”
Kingdom marriages are not perfect—they are covenants between two flawed individuals. But when both partners are committed to Christ, they can extend grace, patience, and forgiveness more easily.
A husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially, selflessly, and with a heart to serve.
A wife is called to submit to her husband—not out of oppression, but with humility, understanding, care, and love.
Preparing for a Godly Marriage
For God to shape us into the person we need to be for a godly marriage, it takes time, sacrifice, and submission to Him.That’s why the waiting can feel long. But while we wait, we can be active in our preparation:
Pray for your future spouse. Even if you don’t know who they are yet, ask God to prepare their heart, mind, and spirit for marriage.
Ask the Lord to prepare you. Pray that He would refine your character and align you with His plan for your life.
Seek God’s will. Be open to His timing, even if it doesn’t align with your own.
Trust in His plan. Believe that He will bring the right person at the right time.
Let’s pray for patience in the waiting and trust that God, in His perfect wisdom, will introduce us to our future spouse at the appointed time.
I encourage you—wait on the Lord and don’t settle for less than what He has destined for you. The wait may feel long, but when He finally brings that person into your life, it will all be worth it!
Much love,
Jackie